Are Your Goals Exciting?
by Jim Donovan
This may sound like a strange
question, but are you really excited about your goals? Of course, I'm making the
assumption that you have already invested the time to think about what you want
your life to be like and identified some of your goals in several areas. If not,
please do this immediately. If you don't know where you're going, how will you
know when you get there.
Having
written goals will change your life; I guarantee it! Spend some time thinking
about what you'd like your life to be like. For the sake of this exercise, let's
set goals you'd like to have accomplished one year from now. Of course, you can
set shorter and longer goals as well.
What
would you like for your relationships? How about your health, career, and
finances? How about your mind and emotions? What would you like to experience?
What would you like to do, be, or have? Invest some time now to identify these
things and write them down. This will greatly increase the likelihood of your
accomplishing them. If you want to know more about this, there are lots of
books, including mine, to help you. That's not really the topic of this story,
however, I'm asking you now to revisit your goals, particularly your short-term,
six month to one year ones.
Do
they make you want to jump out of bed each day eager to get going? Recently, I
was feeling "less than great." I was even bordering on becoming
depressed, something I rarely experience. I felt unmotivated, and wound up being
pretty sick for several weeks. Upon closer examination, and because I agree with
Plato that an unexamined life is not worth living, I realized one of the things
that I had done was to reset some of my short-term goals to be "more
realistic."
I
think I believed what I was hearing about the current economic situation. Of
course, some of what "they" are saying is true. Some people are
experiencing an economic downturn. Interestingly enough, the Horchow Catalog, a
collection of some of the highest priced, one-of-a-kind items you can find, is
expecting another year of double-digit growth. This is as compared to a 1 or 2%
for the rest of the catalog industry. They were quoted as saying that
"there are always well-heeled people willing to pay for fine things."
Obviously, not everyone believes in the economic downturn!
What
I had noticed about myself was that in the interest of being realistic, I had
lowered my expectations. While this may seem like a reasonable thing to do, in
reality, it left me totally uninspired and feeling pretty unmotivated about my
goals. For example, if you have a goal of making enough money to "pay the
bills" how exciting is that? Is that going to make you jump out of bed in
the morning saying, "oh wow, I can't wait to get going, so I can make money
and pay the bills!" I doubt it.
When
I understood what I was doing, I immediately set new goals. I set goals that
were way beyond my reach. Goals that were huge enough to really get my juices
going. Now, when I think about my new, bigger goals, I get excited just imaging
what it would feel like reaching them and what my life would be like having
accomplished them. I get jazzed just thinking about my new income goals, for
example. And even if I don't fully reach it, I know I will go way beyond what I
might have accomplished and will feel better along the way. After all, isn't
feeling good what it's all about.
Now,
go get your journal, and let's start setting some new goals for the coming year.
Following is a simple exercise to help you become clear about your goals and
begin creating the life you've always wanted.
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Write
what you don't want. This will help you get clear about what you do want.
Afterwards, you may want to throw this list away.
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Write
what you want. List everything you want to do, be, and have for the upcoming
year and beyond.
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Write
each goal in the form of an affirmation. Do goals in all the major areas of your
life - spirituality, health, relationships, social, career, things, and money.
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Next
to each one, write why you want this and how you will feel when you have
accomplished it.
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Write
at least one action you can take right now to move toward your goal. What simple
step can you take immediately (today)?
Each
day, read your list of goals, concentrating on the feelings associated with
having them. Feelings like freedom, value, love, secure, safe, prosperous, etc.
The more you can feel the feelings your goal will produce, the faster you can
draw it to you.
After
you reread your goals and are feeling the good feelings associated with having
them, ask yourself, "What is the next action I can take to move toward
this?" Do this daily and watch your life change.
Jim
Donovan is an inspirational speaker and author of Handbook to a Happier Life.
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